This is important to know. As we evolve, so does our external reality.
Gonna let go for GOOD.
No matter how much you think you owe a person, a friend, a situation or circumstance to soldier on and give it yet another chance, over and over again, no matter how much you worry for someone and the situation they are in and how their life will be without you to fall back on even though they treat you like garbage or only give you time when they want something, no matter how far things go back, or how things used to be, you should stop.
People change, or fail to change while you change. No mater how important a friend was to you when you were younger, no matter how deep that friendship was, you are not obligated to give a person chance after chance after chance—if the friendship has gone sour, no matter how many chances you give it, it isn’t going to make anything better. You will suffer and worry and stress while they tell you that you’re a bad friend, and I need you, hypothetical person reading this in the same situation, to know that you are not the bad friend.
You’re doing okay, and if you keep giving them chances, you’re giving them more consideration and care than they’ve probably given you in possibly years. You are a good friend, but you can’t force something to work if the other person isn’t willing, so the next time the opportunity comes up, or you decide to just manufacture one, break it off and don’t look back. Sever. You will be so much happier going forwards, and that happiness is worth so much more than slogging through drama, constant fights, frustration and hurt feelings forever because you feel like you owe someone.
Plus, if you give someone a dozen of chances to change, they will think it’s okay for them NOT to. Because whatever happens, you’ll be there for them, and you’ll forgive them and keep being supportive.
You can be there for them, forgive them and be supportive by letting them go. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do, but it’s the best for both you AND that person. It’s the only way they will really learn. Or else, what (positive) change would they want to bring if you’re constantly behind them?
Respect yourself first, know what’s good for you, so you can help people out in a better, saner way.
Hard place to come to. Important place to be.
All across the Internet, websites and services are staging a mass denial of service attack on themselves, to show the world what the world would look like if Big Cable and AT&T solicit bribes to decide which websites you can reach quickly, and which ones are going to go in the Internet slow-lane.
In my latest Locus column, Audible, Comixology, Amazon, and Doctorow’s First Law, I unpick the technological forces at work in the fight between Amazon and Hachette, one of the “big five” publishers, whose books have not been normally available through Amazon for months now, as the publisher and the bookseller go to war over the terms on which Amazon will sell books in the future.
Our first attempt at a Swedish fire log was a smashing success.
burns for hours and it looks beautiful.
I have no idea how you make a Swedish fire long
but i have a MIGHTY NEED for a Swedish fire log
It’s actually super easy and you see basically how in the picture: Just cut slits about like 3/4 down in a big (dry) log with a chainsaw. Then, just light it up on top with some smaller branches and whatever, the inside will catch fire, and it’ll burn for a long time. Great at outside events in the cold months.